Love without discipline creates weakness. Discipline without love creates fear. But when the two are woven together, they create strength that lasts a lifetime.
In parenting, I’ve seen how easy it is to lean too far toward one side. When love overpowers discipline, children grow up sheltered, entitled, or fragile in the face of adversity. When discipline overpowers love, children grow up rigid, resentful, or afraid to take risks. The balance is everything — and it is the hardest balance to maintain.
My own upbringing taught me this lesson. My grandparents and parents loved me fiercely, but they also refused to let my physical challenges define me. When I fell, they encouraged me to get up on my own. When I doubted myself, they reminded me of my strength. Their love was never a cushion that protected me from effort — it was fuel that pushed me to keep trying.
Now, with my own children, I try to carry this forward. I love them deeply, but I do not shield them from responsibility. I discipline them firmly, but never without kindness. Because what I want them to learn is that love and discipline are not opposites — they are allies.
When children experience this harmony, they grow into adults who are both compassionate and resilient, kind and courageous, gentle in spirit and unbreakable in will. That is the kind of character the world needs most.
So my philosophy is simple: love with discipline, discipline with love. Anything less creates imbalance. Anything more creates leaders.